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What’s a reasonable number of times a day for Jacket to call her mom on our trip?
It’s started already. Jacket’s mom has named a number of times that she wants to call us while we’re in Florida. Predicting this, I’ve told her that my cell phone doesn’t work down there (I usually turn it off when I’m on vacation anyway). She’s not buying it.
I wouldn’t mind being open to unlimited phone calls if Jacket’s mom wasn’t so demanding and difficult during each call. If I miss a call she will continue to call every minute, and now she’ll text as well, until I answer. When I do answer she’s like a controlling boyfriend - ‘Where are you?’, ‘Who are you with?’, ‘Whose voice is that in the background?’ No matter how simple I try to keep my responses we end up going round and round and it’s exhausting.
The schedule I made has once a day Skype calls. Jacket’s mom isn’t accepting that. What’s a reasonable compromise?
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ummno said:
I’d go with 3- Good Morning! Hows your day been? Good Night!
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fullfrontalhonesty said:
At our house we have a schedule of birth parent calls 3x per day, (before school, after school and before bedtime) but it usually ends up only happening 2x per day.
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stillwishingforfaries said:
I think once to say good morning and then again at bedtime. That would be it.
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kmnml said:
maybe give her a call window — I’m available and will have my phone with me between 3 - 5 everyday.
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mama-me-eh said:
a call in the morning, a skype at night
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tiny-bee said:
I’m with most everyone else — a call in the morning and a call in the evening seems reasonable.
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fyrikaos said:
I’m with everyone else - skype in the morning and then one scheduled before bed or at dinner time. If something exciting happens and Jacket wants to call mom, then allow it. But put your foot down with mom - she has to learn to relax - she is safe!
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berezina said:
If possible, I’d offer to call her three times a day: morning, noon, & night. Sell it as, I’ll call you when there’s good reception & time for all three of us to really talk. Also, You have to trust me / give Jacket a little space to enjoy herself.
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michelle-lorraine said:
Maybe Skype in the morning, and again at night. Text her a little update during the day.
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rebeka21 said:
Skyping in the mornings and a goodnight call in the evening? It’s too much pressure on you and Jacket to continuously call her throughout the day-you have to enjoy yourselves! Say your phone doesn’t have service and you can only use the hotel phone.
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nb808 said:
Morning when she wakes up, and evening when she goes to bed.
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hershapeinthedoorway said:
once a day.
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courtneyannabelle said:
Maybe once a day phone call and skype call? One at the beginning of the day and one at the end of the day?
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