I hear you all in that my communication with Jacket’s mom is judgmental and will ultimately be ineffective.  I was trying to take a page out of the detective’s book by being a hardass.  In a twisted way, I thought it might empower Jacket’s mom to say to one of her boyfriend’s in jail “Look, Jacket’s godmother says that she HAS to go to school.  I can’t make it this time.”

I’m going to suggest that I not pay for the next month of preschool and just put an end to our misery.

This preschool experiment really is helping me to be realistic when it comes to Jacket’s education.  I have a strong sense that these issues are still going to be around when Jacket starts compulsory school in a few years and if so, I don’t think a private school is going to want to deal with it.  She might have to be at a public school just so that the “system” with click in and require attendance.

I keep hearing more and more horror stories of NYC public schools, particularly in Jacket’s neighborhood.  And private school applications start this fall.  I should start meeting with people now and start touring schools soon but obviously not if Jacket’s mom is not on board.  If she won’t tour the YMCA I can’t imagine that she will tour schools with me.

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  1. handknitbyafailedfeminist said: No matter what happens your participation in her life and education is so important. The seeds you sow may not be reaped for years.
  2. fyrikaos said: I should also add it’s free AND they have in house therapy (free) OT, speech and child psych - and if Jacket needs an IEP they will walk her mom thru the whole thing and advocate for her/you. most charter app deadlines are 4/1!!
  3. withfins said: I’m not sure where jacket lives, but my boyfriend’s mom is a kindergarden teacher in the south Bronx and is amazing. her classroom is full of stuff and she’s really inspired a lot of teachers there to up their game.
  4. lovelylyra said: Keep doing what you are doing. Keeping being “hard” with her. Be consistent. I bet nothing’s consistent in her life and you need to continue to be. Keep pursuing the good schools. Just keep going Xx
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