Is it okay to drink socially with the foster kids around?

EratHoraFPWI posted a great question on the fosterhood boards (that I’ve terribly neglected!):

“I am wondering how you (if you) change the amount you drink alcohol when you have a foster placement?   We have a baby, 4 year old, and 10 year old and had a bbq on Sat with a few family members.  They know “drinks are in the fridge” and my brother and dad helped themselves to a beer.  But, we had been feeling strange drinking in front of them (although that same bottle of wine has been sitting in our fridge for a month & there are always bottles of beer in the fridge—they haven’t seen us drink.) 

I am sure the ten year old has witnessed things being out of control, not sure how much the four year old has.

They did not appear to be triggered, and maybe it is good for them to see things done in moderation?  At least that’s what we told ourselves ;) 

Any thoughts?”

 I’ve had the same thoughts while holding a beer in my hand in front of Jacket and her family.  Am I teaching moderation or just waving temptation and mixed signals?

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  1. gaudzilla reblogged this from fosterhood and added:
    No it’s not okay, especially when those kids, like myself have been put in foster care because of alcohol abuse. The...
  2. stillwishingforfaries said: My husband and I were just talking about this. I think it’s important to let them see people drinking responsibly without taking it too far. Enjoying themselves and it not blowing up out of control, and that they are still safe.
  3. maxandmummy said: Yes. It’s better to teach them to drink in moderation and sensibly.
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