Exactly

I just saw on Carrie and Andrew’s blog that they’ve invited their foster daughter’s bio family (what’s the PC replacement?) to the Poconos (in addition to me and Jacket and some of their other friends).  I let out a loud “Bah!”.  So awesome and I’ve so been there. 

Keeping up separate worlds is complicated.  Foster kid’s family, work life, personal friends, new foster folks who suddenly are woven intimately into your every day (case workers, foster parents, attorneys), etc, etc.  Remember how much I struggled with who to invite for Jacket’s 2nd birthday party (can you believe I’ve done three years)?  At some point it totally makes sense to just say “Fuck it” and give up on managing boundaries. 

Invite everyone on over and if it gets messy, well, isn’t it already? 

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  1. yeahchloe said: Im a a mom with 2 children from my first marriage n stepmom n i invite exes to my kids bday parties n thanksgiving but they never come…maybe im lucky but i feel it hurts the kids. Life is messy!!!
  2. seriouslythough said: I believe it’s “family of origin”, but I’m a Foster Care Social Worker, and everyone still uses “birth parent(s)”.
  3. lovelyjenny said: life IS messy.
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