So, of course I have a game plan for eventually tracking down Jacket. The thing is, let’s say I find her- then what? The moment Jacket’s mom gives me a phone number or address I (ethically) have to give it over to ACS. In turn, Jacket’s mom will know that I ‘snitched’ on her and she’ll be back on the run. She (or, more likely her family) knows all of the in’s and out’s of dodging ACS and are quite successful.
My concerns for Jacket aren’t new or different even though they’ve supposedly moved out of the apartment. I never know where Jacket actually is at night or what new felon is living in the house at the time. I’m on medium, not high, alert.
So my plan, in no particular order:
1. Tell the detective. Her mother just died so I haven’t bothered her with what, sadly, is routine Jacket drama. I will let her know soon. I gave the ACS case worker her number, her level of involvement and they can always call her as well.
2. Continue to pay the $14.99 to keep the (locked down and only for calling me through skype) Ipad Internet going. No one has turned the ipad on in almost two months. It’s 50/50 as to if it’s been sold, stolen or lost.
3. “Bump into” grandma (and possibly Jacket and her mom) just outside the foster agency as they are coming and going to visit Jacket’s cousins on Fridays.
4. Likely the most successful attempt will be if I leave a bag of stuff (left overs from my recent clothing swap with friends, some of the books for Jacket I found on the street, homemade brownies) and a simple apology note for Jacket’s mom/grandma at the foster agency.
5. Google stalk the whole family and piece together where they are living. (**Don’t underestimate an adoptee’s internet research skills if they found their bio parents without so much names or ages.)
6. Hire a private investigator. Always an option but a bit too stalkerish for my preference. I would wait at least a year and then I would only do it to make sure Jacket was in school (if she’s not, I’ll call in my own ACS child abuse case).
All in all, I expect Jacket’s mom to roll back around eventually. It’s only been a couple of weeks and she’s got to figure out how to get Jacket to corroborate her we-were-living-in-Florida-but-now-we’re-back story. Not to mention she thinks she has to convince me that her life is stable now. I will forever cringe at this mistake.
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- 122782 said: You don’t owe anyone an apology.
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- mamamusement said: I can’t even imagine the anxiety. Sending good thoughts your (and Jacket’s) way.
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- fosteringchange said: On the iPad do you have the app find my friends or find my iPad? Either of those would locate its where abouts and possibly them….but you’d need it on her iPad :/
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